Public Dating Profile

The basics

I'm 42, 6'4", and interested in women. I've never been married, but would like to change that. No kids yet, but very much want them. I've got Jewish heritage and love the culture, but I wasn't raised with any religion and don't practice any now.

My home is in Somerville, MA. I also bought a lake house with my family last year! We spend a ton of time there together and it's made our already-close relationships even better.

About my life

Work

I'm the co-founder of a software company I started in 2018 with two friends. It's gone super well! This year, my co-founders and I hired/promoted some leaders and stepped away from day-to-day operation of the company. I don't currently need a day-job, so I spend most of my time pursuing passion projects. Right now, I'm training to be a yoga assistant, getting highly involved in local politics, and growing a community.

Singing

One of the things that brings me the most joy in life is singing.

I was fortunate to be raised by musical parents who encouraged me to join choruses at an early age. Thanks to them, I've been singing in some ensemble or another for ~30 years.

Currently, I sing with the Tanglewood Festival Choir, which performs with the Boston Symphony Orchestra.

Before that, I sang in a barbershop quartet for 10 years alongside my brother. I miss that group a lot and hope to start a new quartet someday.

I've had so many rich experiences in those groups, and I'd love to tell you about them in person.

Family

I won the family lottery. It's almost certainly the best thing about my life.

I have a younger brother who lives nearby. He's one of my favorite people. He's married with a young son and daughter. I knew I would enjoy being an uncle, but I'm liking it even more than expected. I can't talk about my niece without smiling :)

My parents also live nearby. I visit them every other weekend or so, and not just because they have a really cute dog. My mom is warm and empathetic, and my dad is ridiculously handy and protective of his people.

Fitness

Even when it's a pain, I'm pretty good about making myself exercise regularly.

It's worth it to me for a few reasons:

• Living is awesome and I want to do it for a long time!
• I want to be a bad-ass old dude who can occasionally embarrass the younger guys.
• It makes my moods dramatically better. I'm more fun to be around when I'm exercising.
• Little bit of vanity, tbh.

I tend to bounce between fitness activities. I get super into something for a while and then change it up. Right now it's lifting and yoga, but previous stints have included volleyball, boxing, and ultimate.

What I'm looking for

Important stuff

• You're emotionally warm and have nurturer energy. You have a ton of love to give, and are exciting about receiving it as well (I am extremely affectionate and always have been).
• You think we'd be good at making each other laugh. I think I value having a funny partner way more than most men. I've found it makes life so much more enjoyable. I love quick-wittedness and callbacks, and lightly hate puns and slapstick. For reference, my favorite comics are currently Mike Birbiglia, Shane Gillis, Tom Segura, and Bo Burnham.
• You're excited to raise happy kids in not too many years (after dating, marriage, and at least one serious adventure).
  • It's very important to me to eventually be a father, but I'm somewhat flexible on how I achieve this. In order, starting with most appealing, my preferences are: have biological kids with my partner, have biological kids via a surrogate, or adopt.
  • I'm open to dating people with kids if you're open to having more (or to me attempting to have a child via surrogacy and raising him/her together).
• You're willing to living near Boston
  • I very much want to live near my family most of the time. Also: lake house.
  • If there's a part of the world that's important to you to live near, I'm down to live there some of the year!
• You take your health seriously. Personally, I plan to never die. It's fine if you do, but only after a good long bit.
• You tend to focus on what's good in the world. You're not afraid to confront life's challenges, but do so from a place of optimism.

Non-essential bonuses

• You have a good memory and are detail-oriented (these are a weakness for me, so it'd be rad if I could lean on you a bit here).
• You make things happen in the world.
  • What are your schemes? How can I help? Will you help me with mine?
• You have a great relationship with your family.
• You have a little bit of a mischievous side.

Things I do/believe that may or may not work for you

• I think capitalism, free markets, and America are all mostly great. Life is mostly great, even though it can be really hard at times.
• The in-practice replacement of iced coffee with cold brew was a crime and rises to the level of iced coffee erasure.

Getting in touch

Think we'd match? I'd love to hear from you: ben@benorenstein.com

If you do reach out, please don't feel like you ought to write as much as I have. That said, I'd love it if you did include at least some basics and a few photos. If you have links to online presences that I can check out, that'd be great too.

Hope to hear from you soon! :)

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